How much control do you have over your own life? When’s the last time you thought about deliberately choosing what you want in your life? Here’s a tip: What you allow is what will continue. Let’s talk about choices, growth, and the magic of moving forward!
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Check Out the Rest of the Series!
This is the third week of our 8-week series on getting ready for the new year. This week is all about deliberately choosing what you want to keep as part of your life as you look towards the future.
You can check out the other posts here:
- How to Prepare for the New Year [an 8-Week Plan for Your Best Year Ever]
- How To Do a Year-End Reflection [Make peace with 2020]
- How to Let Go of the Past and Move Forward Into the New Year
- In-Between Moments: Sitting in the Space Between Two Things
- 7 Powerful Questions to Help You Create a Vision For Your Life
- A 5-Step System for Breaking Goals Down Into Manageable Steps
- How to Create a Morning Routine and Stick To It
- 17 Small Daily Habits to Instantly Improve Your Quality of Life
If You Don’t Like It, Do Something Else
What does “what you allow is what will continue” even mean?
Here’s the truth: you have a great deal of power over what your life looks like.
If you don’t like something in your life, but continue to passively accept it, it’s probably not going to stop. It’s physics, right?
An object at rest will remain at rest and an object in motion will remain in motion unless acted upon by some external force.
So if you don’t like things, do something different. If you want things to change, start changing things.
What You Choose is What Will Continue
“Allow” is such a passive word. And it’s not really accurate. How about “choose?”
You are choosing what you want in your life, you’re not allowing it. Not acting to change something is still a choice. You are choosing to do nothing. You are choosing to allow the same thing to continue. You are choosing what to allow.
Instead of thinking about what you will “allow” to continue, think about what you will CHOOSE to continue.
Choose what you want to be a part of your life. Choose to hold on to positive things, aligned things, things that make you feel good and supported!
What you allow = what you choose = what will continue!
Change Grows From the Inside Out
A lot of times we want to measure progress by external tangible markers like – more money, a better job, a bigger house, a new relationship – stuff like that.
But real transformational change is internal. This is the kind of change that blossoms up out of you – and THEN external changes follow as an outward unfolding of your inner growth.
It’s very easy to get side-tracked by what seem like quick fixes because we want something physical and tangible that we can hold up and show to the world and go “AHA! See!” But by starting over constantly you are stunting your own growth instead of building upon all of the internal work that you have accomplished.
You Have Grown More Than You Think You Have
What internal growth have you done recently? What sort of mindset shifts have you made? What has made you feel more whole, more right? What changes have you made that were prompted by what felt right for you, instead of what you were supposed to do?
Why You Need to Think About What You Are Taking With You Into the Future
If one important part of growth and transformation is knowing what to get rid of, so too is knowing what to keep. Even if you feel like you want to start brand-spanking-new, the reality is that there’s no such thing. You are always building on some kind of foundation. Some of the old always carries over to the new thing.
So make sure that you are carrying forward the things that will be useful to you and that will help you grow in the direction you want to grow.
You are crossing a bridge. What are you going to take with you? Don’t just drift mindlessly, taking whatever happens to be close at hand. Choose deliberately.
You are setting the foundation for your future. Will it be haphazardly thrown together or carefully laid?
“Every event has a purpose and every setback its lesson. I have realized that failure, whether of the personal, professional or even spiritual kind, is essential to personal expansion. It brings inner growth and a whole host of psychic rewards. Never regret your past. Rather, embrace it as the teacher that it is.” – Robin Sharma
What Do You Want to Bring Forward?
Just like you think about what you want to shed before you move forward into something new, think about what you want to keep.
Before you plunge forward in a mad rush, sit down and write out the things that have been working well for you and that you want to take forward with you:
- New routines, rituals, or habits
- Ways of relating to people
- Collaborations or partnerships
- Self-care and nourishment
These are all positive tools that you can use to help create and build your future. Don’t move forward passively: Choose what you allow to continue.
What’s one thing that you are choosing to keep as part of your life moving forward? Comment below and share!